With just under 3 weeks until Christmas and a house move also on before then I find myself caught a little off guard by my sense of calm.

This is new territory for me. I have always loved the ‘busy’ tag and never been particularly good at ‘doing nothing' or even less.

I set about 2017 with 2 primary intentions. 

The first was to live by a ‘do less, live more’ philosophy.


This included learning to rest when I needed to. Not one single thing in nature blooms and shines all year round and neither do we have to.  It has taken me the year to unpick some old habits and deeply re-wire some new ones that include focusing my attention on the activities and efforts that bring me the most joy, connection, ease and in my business growth and revenue.

My second intention was to be a little braver around some of the harder conversations I needed to have with some very precious people in my life. That vulnerability has of course been rewarded with deeper connection, intimacy and understanding. It’s kinda been like tidying my pantry…it has to get really messy first before getting better.

Underpinning all of this has been an even greater calling to get clearer and clearer about how I want my life to FEEL.

There is nothing like the end of the year for some reflection over the year that is drawing to a close and this obviously quite naturally leads to thoughts about the approaching new year. This often has us thinking about what has lit us up this year, what we want to leave behind and maybe some very specific intentions for the new year.

I have started asking my crew around the dinner table over the last couple of weeks the following questions and hope they might help you…

Year in Review:

• What lit you up?
• What didn’t?
• What do you want to feel more of?
• What have you learnt ?

New Year Intentions : How do you want to FEEL?

• Mind / Body / Soul/ Finances / Work / Relationships / Community

I have chosen to make my feelings my guide post for a number of years now. I bow deeply with gratitude to Danielle LaPorte for all she taught me through her Desire Map process.

I so badly want to believe that if more and more of us started paying closer attention to how we want to feel (in each moment, day, month, year) and let that be our reference point for setting our intentions and goals (with soul), then there would be less scrambling for material pursuits and possessions thinking they will fill our voids and heal our pain.

I wonder how you are feeling as the year comes to a close? 

Permission granted to choose to do less lovely.
Permission granted to choose kindness – to yourself and to others.
Permission granted to be mindful and present with yourself as you pay attention to how you feel in these festive and busy days.

If you’re craving a little more clarity and want to tune in some more to your feelings, the gift I have made for you will help you to start to peel some of those layers. Simply subscribe to my email list to get your copy of my free Clarity Crash Course delivered right to your inbox. 

If you’re ready for a deeper dive to get to your Core Desired Feelings and really map out what turns you on and lights you up in all the areas of your life, click here to get your hands on the Desire Map Process from Danielle LaPorte. The Desire Map comes in hard copy format and audio making sure there is something for everyone. Thoughtfulness right there.
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'Clarity creates Simplicity’
– Danielle LaPorte

Boom! Right there in one sentence, the two things I crave and pray for the most. Clarity and simplicity as it turns out, are related. Love it. That’s elegance right there.

My greatest wish and prayer for you this December is for peace, joy, family occasions filled with ease and pure bright clear light as you seek and feel your way into the new year.

With all my love,
Lucille x

If the rules are not broken, we will be.
- Yoko Ono

I was in my late 30's before it occurred to me to question some long established 'rules'.

The first rule I started to question was what mothering and working 'should' look like.

I was at a cross roads making the decision about what to do after our youngest had started school. I was super clear about not returning to corporate life (sold my soul there) and also very clear about wanting far more flexibility at the same time as making a contribution (both financially and to the community - both near and far).

I knew in my heart that sticking with the 'rules' I once knew about working was going to break me.

I had to be open to a new way to play in order to get a new outcome.

Same in = same out.

I had to be prepared to shake the can of everything I knew and be open to a new idea if I was going to get the flexibility I wanted, the income I wanted and the connection I was craving. 

Thank god I did. 

That one act of challenging what I considered 'the done thing' and stepping into something new has changed my life.

Enter network marketing and USANA Health Sciences as my product and business partner.

Being willing to re-write (and re-wire) some 'rules' about what working and business could be like has not only allowed me to be a home based mumprenuer, but has taught me the magic of a residual income.

I quickly got a taste for what life felt like earning an income that isn't dictated by a fixed working venue or number of hours worked and that rather is all about freedom, connection and collaboration. Suddenly life started to feel very different. 

Selling up to spend 15 months living and travelling through Europe with our kids in 2015 was another game changing decision. Making the decision to go was the toughest bit. It totally felt like we were 'breaking the rules' at the time taking off with 3 kids, 7 suitcases, only a very loose plan and nothing else except a desire to cut loose and feel freedom.

Again, thank god we did. I'm learning that every time I 'break the rules' I get showered in magic.

I can't imagine what my life would feel like today if I hadn't been prepared to challenge what I understood as 'codes of how life is done.' 

More than anything right now, I want to encourage you to do that thing you are noodling on and have maybe been putting to one side because it feels like 'it's different'.

Stepping off the track, challenging the rules and beating your own path will reward you in more ways than you can begin to imagine. I promise you that. It sure as hell won't always be easy but it will always be your rules, your path and your choices.

Your turn....
Tell me in the comments what rules you have broken or are considering shaking up!

If you want to know more about what it feels like to build and grow your own business partnering with me and USANA Health Sciences, please drop me a line here. I would so love to meet you and help you write your own rules!

​For a girl who believes in and loves the power of clarity, I’m here to let you know it’s not always blue skies and clear visions in my world.

As a recovering control freak I work hard these days at not having everything all buttoned up for every minute and task in the day.

It’s exhausting living like that (controlling) and I often ended up feeling let down by the people I love the most because they weren’t doing ‘it’ my way.

Some days it’s tougher than others to ‘let it go’ however one of the most beautiful things that happens when I do let go of all the details is those people around me get to step up and shine.

What’s the difference between clarity and control?

For me clarity is about knowing where you’re going and how you want to feel along the way. Plenty of room for magic and letting life unfold as it is meant to. Beautiful, in the flow, gracious and with filled with ease.

Control is about feeling like you have to have every step of the plan all lined up, accounted for and buttoned down with no wriggle room. All your ‘ducks in a row’ and don’t anyone dare mess that plan up! Zero room for magic and feeling like it’s a white knuckle ride most of the time as you hang on so tightly to everything. Eeek. Feels tight, fraught, exhausting and like you're never winning.

I most definitely believe in the power of clarity when it comes to how I want to feel (all thanks to Danielle LaPorte for the Desire Map that taught me that). I take my cues from my core desired feelings every day.

If you’ve been hanging around with me for a while you will also know I love to ask people what Freedom means to them? Why? Because I so passionately believe that the worlds needs more of us doing the stuff that makes us feel light, expanded and on fire. That takes some serious clarity and doing more of what makes us feel good so very often takes a bucket load of letting go and trusting.

When we sold and packed up to take a year away travelling through Europe with our kids, we had crystal clarity about what we were doing. We were leaping off and trying freedom on for size but totally had to trust that the rest of it would take care of itself.

Apart from buying our tickets and having some plans that covered the first couple of months, we had pretty much no plan about how things were going to pan out, while we were away or for when we returned. That trip, that journey into trusting and leaving room for magic was the greatest lesson ever for me. It totally taught me that there is always a greater plan in place than anything I can fathom and even as I sit here writing this now I am being reminded to trust and let go in the times I find it hardest to do that.

Right now I have a very clear vision of a particular goal I plan to achieve in my business before the end of June but I gotta tell you, I don’t have every detail nailed down! I know who I will be working with and I know what I need to achieve but I am choosing to leave some room for magic. I am also choosing to let others around me shine. This can be their time.

So why do we get so hung up on knowing every step of the path? A Course in Miracles teaches “the presence of fear is a sure sign you are trusting your own strength."

I’m putting my hand on my heart and committing to keep working on trusting, allowing and surrendering to the greater plan. It’s harder than controlling because you have to trust. You have to trust that the Universe has your back. That trust requires faith in something greater than us that we can’t see or explain but I am so IN!

Who's with me? Who is working on easing up, letting go and leaving some room for magic?

Your turn…..
Where are you at on the clarity vs control scale? Do you feel clear about what you want your life to look and feel like? Are you holding on super tightly to all the details or are you leaving some room for magic? Do you catch yourself and remind yourself to breath and let it go?

Let me know in the comments. I would so love to hear how you approach clarity vs control?

Need help?

If you are ready to start moving from control to clarity, let’s talk! If you know you want to get clear about how you want to feel (vs the heart wrenching anxiety of trying to be in control every minute of the day) or you want to explore what freedom means for you, check out my Clarity Calls and let's connect.

​It seems that everywhere I turn, the message, the language, the guts of what I am hearing women talking about is connection.

Women craving connection.

I know I do. I can’t go more than a couple of days without lining up with someone for a coffee at least, if not a long juicy walk and talk to fill my tank again. I crave hearing other women’s stories of what’s important to them and how they are achieving doing more of what lights them up.

I am seeing beautiful new circles of women both near and far gathering for a variety of different causes and reasons but ultimately because we want to be connected.

To encourage each other. To be seen. To be heard.

To be part of something bigger than ourselves.

Connection is a core value for me. Making sure I am tuned into me and being true to myself on one level and being plugged into those people and places that leave me feeling like I have plenty in my tank. In fact enough to share.

I have been a long time believer that for many women, gathering with others to learn from our shared wisdom, strength, successes and failures is what encourages many women to step up, step out, step in or step down.

Something a little like magic happens when we feel like someone else who genuinely wants to see us shining has our back.

On a global scale I am sure it is in our ‘separate-ness’ (new word?) that we have become so fractured and broken. Operating from a place of separate-ness leads to ‘you vs me’ thinking. We become more focused on our differences than our similarities. We get stuck in the need to be right and making someone else wrong.

Connection of course relates to our internal sense of connection too. That sense of connection within that has us knowing and believing there is something far greater than us at play. I know for me it’s been in the times that I have been relying on myself, holding on so tightly to the controls (white knuckle ride!) that I have felt most alone in the world.

It has been when I have been willing to have faith, let go and frankly surrender to the greater plan that I have felt the greatest sense of connection and ease ever.

So why am I asking for your help?

Because I’m absolutely sure that if we can all tune in to a little more connection (within and without), we can one by one start to heal ourselves, our communities and our world.

I have zero desire to sound ‘lofty’ as I write this.

I am just so convinced that if we can lay down our agendas, really start looking each other in the eye, listening, encouraging and really seeking to see the best in ourselves and others, that the ripple effect of that connection and that love has to make a difference. A good difference. And surely there is freedom in that?

We’re all in this together.
Lucille x

Your turn….

Do you have some internal connection work to do? Maybe even some connecting outside of yourself?

Are you willing to step in and play your part in helping us get on with being more connected and less separate?

​I would love to know what connection means to you? Do you have some fave resources that have helped you tune in? Let us know in the comments. This is where the conversations are born.

​I have a confession to make.

I’m a junkie for Danielle LaPorte. Her wisdom, how she says it, how she shares it, how she is all heart and how she calls BS.

I had the privilege of seeing her speak live this week. So many nuggets to digest. The theme of the evening was “Choose to Shine”. Danielle’s call to action is that she wants us all knowing, speaking and owning our truth.

Sign me up! However, easier said than done in a world that thrives on conformity, sameness and numbness.


I have been guided by Danielle’s Desire Map process for more than five years now. Setting ‘goals with soul’ as she calls it. Being led by how I want to feel versus pursuing an end game or outcome has changed the game for me.

It was this process that led me to my central core desired feeling of Freedom. It was getting clarity on this that nudged us into selling up and hitting the road to live and travel through Europe with our three kids for a year in 2015. We needed to stretch our wings, bust out of our box and try freedom on for size.

So when Danielle asked in her closing comments the other night :

'What are you choosing to be devoted to?’.....Freedom remains my answer.

So what’s the big deal about freedom? Some would argue a rather generic term, maybe even a bit worn out.

My question for you then is, what does freedom mean to you?

Do you know? Have you spent any time contemplating it?

Do you regularly seek out opportunities to do what makes you feel most free and alive? Feeling good is the whole point right? Right!

Constantly questioning what freedom means to me has taught me that freedom shows up on so many levels. Freedom on a practical basis (time & money), freedom on an emotional level and freedom in my well being (that's another blog).

I have recently come to understand that it is in our financial freedom (which facilitates choices) that we gain time freedom and from there we begin to have emotional freedom.  As more people tap into emotional freedom, we begin to heal and I believe that it is in our individual healing that the world can then begin to heal.

My chosen path to making a contribution to that healing and being part of the solution right now is to continue to spark conversations about freedom. To keep questioning, probing and asking you if you have clarity about what freedom means to you. If you’re not clear, I want to help you get clear so that you can start living more alive, more awake and more free.

I host a limited number of Clarity Coaching Calls each week to help you with that digging and clarifying work.

Clarity is always first base. Why?

Because clarity :

• Helps you prioritise and schedule the stuff that makes you feel good
• Gets you focused on doing more of what you love with the people you love
• Helps you to make choices from a place of self love (hint : having healthy boundaries)
• Nudges you to stay awake (live consciously) to your life and notice what, how and why you’re doing stuff….i.e. it keeps you honest to living your style of freedom
• Helps you let go of any ideas of what you think life was ‘supposed to be like’ and actually get clear about what you want life to be like. Life designed by you requires clarity!
• Is so damn sexy!!

Connect with me here if you want to learn more about my Clarity Calls.
 
To your clarity and to your freedom!
Lucille x
 
Your turn…..

I would love to hear what has you all fired up and juiced about? To use Danielle’s question (currently my fave q) – what are you choosing to be devoted to?

Leave a note in the comments. Your contribution may well inspire someone else. Thank you for making this a conversation! LRx

PS - Dive in here if you want to explore the Desire Map process with Danielle LaPorte to get clear on your Core Desired Feelings, 
* I am a proud affiliate of Danielle LaPorte and only recommend products I have personally used and enjoyed. I may receive a small commission if you purchase through this link. LRx

This is it! The nudge you need to go get 'that thing' done! 

If you have been hanging back waiting for the perfect time, the perfect star alignment, the perfect calm week to make a start…can I tell you something? It ain’t happening! There is no perfect time to start on something that feels scary, makes you feel vulnerable or like you haven’t got it perfectly clear in your head.

If you’ve heard the expression ‘get started before you’re ready’ or ‘ready, fire, aim’, I’m here to tell you it’s the honest white hot truth.



​I have been sitting in a somewhat pregnant state over the development of my website for months (more than I care to count if I’m honest). I was super clear that I had wanted it wrapped up at the end of 2016 so that I could sail into my summer break with that sucker done and not chewing up any more bandwidth.

It wasn’t done and it did chew up bandwidth as I berated myself (with zero compassion) for how crap I was for not getting it done, how incompetent I was and that I am simply not worthy of even being in business. I felt far from 'summer holiday awesome' for a good few weeks as I worked through this and came to a place of letting it go.

It was only once I was on the other side of my disappointment, teeth gnashing and frankly my striving over this project that I was able to realise it had it’s own timing for readiness.

So it is with a very grateful heart today that I have my website ready for you.

​www.lucillerogerslife.com

(Insert Happy dance!!) Make tea or pour a vino and check it out. And thank you! I know that you make choices about how you spend your time.

I’m grateful because this process has continued to teach me that in the striving and forcing, I was getting nowhere.​​

This process has reminded me that there is a greater plan at play and that when I let go, relax, believe and have a little faith, actually everything is already taken care of. I’m the one that gets in the way and funks stuff up!

I am equally grateful for the clarity this process has given me. The time was clearly required for me to marinate in my message and it took every day of that process to nut that out.

“Helping others identify and find their freedom sweet spot has become my personal crusade.
Because I believe that when we truly feel free, we are able to make a bigger difference in this world.”

My mission as a Freedom Coach is to keep sparking those conversations about freedom and keep providing solutions for those looking to tap into more freedom.

If you are keen to keep this conversation alive, subscribe to my email list here. I am truly so excited to meet you and learn what freedom means to you. I want to know if you get enough of it and if not what are you going to do about it?

Question - how devoted to your freedom are you?

Your turn…
​
What are you sitting on that needs to see the light of day? I can promise you these three things about making a start even before you feel ready:

• There is no magic right time to get started. When you start is the perfect time.
• Getting started will help you get clear.
• Getting started will signal to the Universe that you are stepping in and the Universe will already be on it’s way to meet you…and that’s always awesome!

 
Let me know in the comments what you’re going to make a move on this week? I would love to cheer you on!

​Thank you for joining me here! I'm really excited to meet you! Subscribe here for more noodlings on creating a life and business that's all about freedom.

To your Freedom,
Lucille x

I've hit the wall.

Glands up like golf balls and aching from top to toe.

Nothing was stopping me stepping out with my gal pals last night though. Needed one more fix of those beauties before we all sail into our Christmas festivities.

Everyone had stories of various things that were and are the real stories behind making Christmas happen. Arguments with husbands, juggling the kids 'demands' for all their activities, juggling work loads for colleagues already away, cramming the last of the shopping in crammed shopping centers. You get it.

As I sat there with my screaming sore throat and aching bones, I was reminded of how incredibly blessed my life is to have all of these things in my life...a very kind and caring husband, three awesome kids, beautiful friends, a home to host friends and family all year round and the imminent Christmas celebrations upon us.

Deeply deeply grateful.

So why am I feeling sick and achy? Because I am holding onto my disappointments about what I haven't achieved this year. Some projects not quite completed like I had intended and feeling rubbish about it.

These disappointments could take the shine off a few things if I let them fester. I am already clearly receiving the message physically that I need to let go of those things to make room to rest and recharge.

More and more freedom to me means feeling free of guilt, free of 'not being enough', freedom in the surrender.

So that's my plan. These last couple of days before Christmas are going to be about moving at a slower pace, napping, taking it easy and delegating. I will also light a candle or two to thank 2016 for everything she has taught me and to let 2017 know I am ready for her.....very very ready for her.

What are you holding onto as you prepare for Christmas and the end of year celebrations? What are your rituals for letting things go? Please share as I know we all gain from each others ideas.

I wish you and your family the most joyful, peaceful and content of Christmas celebrations. Thank you for being part of the conversation this year. I am really excited about 2017 and bringing to life many of the ideas I have had brewing for a while.

​Always, to your freedom,
Lucille x

It’s been a week that has challenged many of my assumptions about life.

We stayed glued to the TV as the results unfolded. Our living room swung from breath taking silence to a cacophony of questions from the kids. Mostly along the lines of ‘who actually votes for someone like Donald Trump, will he start a war, what does this mean for us, what happens to all those people in America who aren’t white….imagine what they’re feeling?’

After a couple of days letting it all swirl around, listening to the ‘global feedback’ and reading the blogs and thoughts of many people I admire in business and life I was left questioning myself about what this means for me and for us as a family.

As we have continued to discuss Trump’s election as President of the United States, we have talked about where our sphere of influence lies and what we can consciously and intentionally choose to do on an everyday basis.

We have talked about living the values that we believe in as members of this global family. We have talked about being kind, inclusive, respectful, compassionate, passionate, heart centered people in all of the places we show up every day. That means in our home, at school, the sporting field, in business, in friendships, at the supermarket – everywhere, every day.

‘Treat others as you wish to be treated’ is a mantra at our place.

We have also talked about what this has meant for Hilary. I was blown away by the kids compassion for her situation. Not only to lose but to lose to Trump.

Hilary so beautifully reminded us in her concession speech of what it means to fight for your dreams.

“I have spent my entire adult life fighting for what I believe in. I’ve had successes and I’ve had setbacks. Sometimes, really painful ones. […] You will have successes and setbacks too. This loss hurts, but please never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it.”

I often wonder when I will get used to the perfect timing of things.

This message has landed with me in a week when I needed to be reminded of this message the most.
I have lost my way recently. Full of doubt and insecurity about my message and questioning ‘who am I to speak about Freedom?’ ‘Who am I to try and bring my story and my message to the arena that is already very full with very competent and accomplished voices?’

This week has reminded me that every dream is worth the fight. My dreams and your dreams are worth picking ourselves up for again and again.

I have been reminded that it is not in the perfection of the delivery of the message that counts, it’s in the showing up. Thank you Kate Northrup.

The world needs every single one of our lights turned on because darkness cannot exist in the light.

You doing your work for your dream is like turning on a light. When we are doing what makes us feel alive, expanded and juiced, that is pure light in the world and the world needs more of us with our lights on than ever before.

What’s your dream?

My dream is to continue to sink into this freedom feeling. To continue to explore what it means to live by letting go, surrendering and trusting knowing there is a far greater plan at play than anything I can imagine. My dream is to encourage others to tap into what freedom means for them and cheer them on as they make the choices every day to live by that.

It doesn’t matter who our Prime Minister is or who is President of the United States of America. We can all choose to be kind, to be loving, to be inclusive and we can most certainly all choose to turn our lights on and fight for our dreams.

What’s your dream? Is your light turned on? Is there something you know you need to do to shine that little bit brighter? Drop a line in the comments. Thanks for being here and please share if that feels right.

​Lucille x

I had coffee with a girlfriend last week who is always super keen to jump right into the deep end of the pool on our conversations.

We don't see each other often so when we do we 'go there' right from the first minute and I love it.

Straight up she said she needed to pick my brains 'about this freedom thing' because, in her words 'I'm not feeling very free right now.' (She also nudged me to write about our conversation because we both whole heartedly agreed that we know we're not the only ones feeling like we do at times.)

She was super honest and courageous in describing how trapped and caged she is feeling by all things Motherhood/Wife right now.

She told me how being there making it all happen for everyone else in her family was making her feel disconnected from herself, grumpy, resentful and short with her kids.

Relate?

I know I can.

This has nothing to do with wishing away the presence of our kids or regretting our motherhood. We are deeply aware of the privilege of our motherhood and grateful for everything the mother love teaches us.

Namely how much our hearts can hold!

This has everything to do with being brave enough to say it's not all gorgeous sun shiny easy magic everyday.

Love is hard. Family life is hard.

I think the toughest bit though is feeling like your wings have been clipped. Feeling like you're stuck in Groundhog Day is enough to drive anyone a bit mad.

Speaking honestly about how un-fun and how un-free it feels to feel caged at times is also super hard.

It's not a conversation we have with everyone.

The thing that struck me most about what my friend was so bravely sharing is that I know for sure so many of us share her feelings at times.

It makes me question why there is such a culture of shame about admitting that motherhood, family life and if we're getting honest, marriage is hard work?

Picking up socks, making (endless) meals, cleaning bathrooms, hustling on homework, sorting out sibling fights, taxi driving from activity to activity is all very often so far from the dream we thought our lives would be.

I recently heard Glennon Doyle Melton (author of Love Warrior) say "we are brought up in a culture that teaches us that getting married is the finish line. Get married and live happily ever after when in fact marriage is the start line."

Amen.

It's not hard to feel resentment when we feel like our 'us' is getting lost in the 'making shit happen' for everyone around us. We so often compromise our own dreams, desires, passions and interests to wash the sheets, get to soccer training, get hubby away on his next trip and make sure the kids are sorted for camp.

So how do we find anything that remotely feels like freedom in all that?

For me that has come with being supremely tuned into exactly what makes me feel good. Danielle
LaPorte opened the door and shed the light on getting to grips with my core desired feelings and I silently thank her for that gift every day.

Freedom is one of those core feelings for me. I would go so far to say it's my primary core desired feeling. I know what I need to do to 'right my ship' when I am sliding into funky town thanks to knowing how I want to feel.

I know that moving my bones will always make me feel better so I take myself to the beach and walk. I know that hitting my yoga mat will always bring me back to centre. I know that connecting with a gal pal who lets me show up (warts and all) and makes me feel heard will always be a balm to my soul.

I also know that having the time freedom to do those things is essential for how I roll. I am grateful everyday for my freedom based business that gives me choices. I love to connect with those beautiful freedom seeking souls that I am in business with because we are all seeking our version of freedom to simply do more of what we love.

I am also so very grateful for this conversation last week. It reminded me that there are people wanting to keep this conversation about freedom alive. It reminded me that feeling freedom matters to people and that we tend to go a bit bonkers when there is an absence of it in our lives. It reminded me that it means different things to different people and that's perfect.

Over to you...

Can you relate? When do you feel caged or trapped? Can you voice how you truly feel? What are your 'go to' actions for feeling less caged by all things motherhood/wife and tapping into what makes you feel like you are still you?

Drop a line in the comments and if this has resonated for you, please feel free to share with someone else you know who might be feeling the same. We're all in this together!

​Lucille x