For a girl who believes in and loves the power of clarity, I’m here to let you know it’s not always blue skies and clear visions in my world.
As a recovering control freak I work hard these days at not having everything all buttoned up for every minute and task in the day.
It’s exhausting living like that (controlling) and I often ended up feeling let down by the people I love the most because they weren’t doing ‘it’ my way.
Some days it’s tougher than others to ‘let it go’ however one of the most beautiful things that happens when I do let go of all the details is those people around me get to step up and shine.
What’s the difference between clarity and control?
For me clarity is about knowing where you’re going and how you want to feel along the way. Plenty of room for magic and letting life unfold as it is meant to. Beautiful, in the flow, gracious and with filled with ease.
Control is about feeling like you have to have every step of the plan all lined up, accounted for and buttoned down with no wriggle room. All your ‘ducks in a row’ and don’t anyone dare mess that plan up! Zero room for magic and feeling like it’s a white knuckle ride most of the time as you hang on so tightly to everything. Eeek. Feels tight, fraught, exhausting and like you're never winning.
I most definitely believe in the power of clarity when it comes to how I want to feel (all thanks to Danielle LaPorte for the Desire Map that taught me that). I take my cues from my core desired feelings every day.
If you’ve been hanging around with me for a while you will also know I love to ask people what Freedom means to them? Why? Because I so passionately believe that the worlds needs more of us doing the stuff that makes us feel light, expanded and on fire. That takes some serious clarity and doing more of what makes us feel good so very often takes a bucket load of letting go and trusting.
When we sold and packed up to take a year away travelling through Europe with our kids, we had crystal clarity about what we were doing. We were leaping off and trying freedom on for size but totally had to trust that the rest of it would take care of itself.
Apart from buying our tickets and having some plans that covered the first couple of months, we had pretty much no plan about how things were going to pan out, while we were away or for when we returned. That trip, that journey into trusting and leaving room for magic was the greatest lesson ever for me. It totally taught me that there is always a greater plan in place than anything I can fathom and even as I sit here writing this now I am being reminded to trust and let go in the times I find it hardest to do that.
Right now I have a very clear vision of a particular goal I plan to achieve in my business before the end of June but I gotta tell you, I don’t have every detail nailed down! I know who I will be working with and I know what I need to achieve but I am choosing to leave some room for magic. I am also choosing to let others around me shine. This can be their time.
So why do we get so hung up on knowing every step of the path? A Course in Miracles teaches “the presence of fear is a sure sign you are trusting your own strength."
I’m putting my hand on my heart and committing to keep working on trusting, allowing and surrendering to the greater plan. It’s harder than controlling because you have to trust. You have to trust that the Universe has your back. That trust requires faith in something greater than us that we can’t see or explain but I am so IN!
Who's with me? Who is working on easing up, letting go and leaving some room for magic?
Where are you at on the clarity vs control scale? Do you feel clear about what you want your life to look and feel like? Are you holding on super tightly to all the details or are you leaving some room for magic? Do you catch yourself and remind yourself to breath and let it go?
Let me know in the comments. I would so love to hear how you approach clarity vs control?
If you are ready to start moving from control to clarity, let’s talk! If you know you want to get clear about how you want to feel (vs the heart wrenching anxiety of trying to be in control every minute of the day) or you want to explore what freedom means for you, check out my Clarity Calls and let's connect.
"What I now know to be true is that the key to creating freedom is accessing choice and the way to create more choices is to have more of the resources that allow choice, namely time and money."